NOTE: This was originally written on February 21, 2018. I modified it in 2019 and 2020.
To all the plus-sized and super-sized women out there:
I think all of you are God’s most beautiful creations!
However, this world is a cold, wretched, hateful and downright cruel place. There are a lot of people who will harass, mock and reject you for no other reason than your body type. I get that many of you have beautiful hearts and souls, but there are still those who will be cruel to you. It’s not your fault, it’s because society is ugly, not you. Again, in my humble but honest opinion, you are the most beautiful of all God’s creatures.
More importantly, though, for as many that are cruel to you, there are probably just as many men who will love you, cherish you and adore you, not only because of your body type but because many of you have beautiful hearts and souls, despite all of the hell that you all go through. I know this because I am one of those people that are madly attracted to plus-sized and super-sized women. I know there are many other men like me out there, though they may not be as public about their attractions and desires as I am. They are afraid of what others think of them if they find out about these attractions, again it’s because society is ugly.
I was recently single at the time of initially writing this, coming off of an eleven-year relationship which included a little over eight years of marriage. It was to a plus-sized woman, of whom for many years I truly loved and adored. Unfortunately, we didn’t work out. We both had faults, but according to all professionals close to the situation, it was her more than me. I won’t go into details about it publicly, though. I will include this one detail though: I was very much attracted to her body type and she hated her body type, which caused lots of friction. As a matter of fact, when I first saw her, the first thing I noticed was her body of which I was madly attracted to.
UPDATE: I was indeed in a very loving relationship with a beautiful and super-sized young lady from the latter parts of 2018 until December 4, 2019. She just gave up on me and my heart was broken. I loved her so much and I thought she loved me, I mean she claimed that she did all the time.
I know I have flaws. I am very far from perfect or normal, but I think this has made me a more understanding person. You see, I am a little overweight, but haven’t always been. There were times when I was quite underweight (even then, I was still attracted to plus-sized and super-sized women.) I also suffer from schizophrenia among other mental conditions which are well controlled with my medication and therapy but hinder me from living what most would consider a normal life. If that wasn’t enough, I also have a back injury that I sustained whilst falling down some stairs in 2014 but thank God my reproductive organs weren’t adversely affected. I wasn’t always like this, I used to be skinny and there was a time, before age seventeen where I had some of the symptoms still, but they weren’t as full-blown. I used to also have a very strong back as well. Ever since positively the age of fifteen, but earlier than that, I have been madly attracted to plus-sized and super-sized members of the opposite sex, but I kept quiet about it. I first admitted this to others at age sixteen, but only to people whom I trusted. From ages seventeen to eighteen, I started telling more people. By the age of nineteen, I was completely public about it. Over the years, some people gave me kudos and some people think I am perverted. For those that give me kudos, thank you, your kind words mean plenty. For those that think I am perverted, I’ll say there are much worse body types to be attracted to.
Whenever I see a plus-sized or super-sized woman, though, it’s as if fireworks go off in my mind and then all logic goes out the door. I find those body types to be so beautiful. The soft belly, the thick legs, the ample sized buttocks and breasts along with a pretty face will make me smile from ear to ear and feel such giddiness in my heart. I remember them for years to come too. When I see a skinny or toned and muscular woman, my mind and body don’t have that reaction. In fact, I barely notice her, unless she was an unusually nice person, then maybe I would remember her.
…Enough about me…
My message, I guess, to all the plus-sized and super-sized women out there is that you don’t have to settle for less. I know all too well, unfortunately, that many of you go with men who either cheat on you, abuse you or berate you in some way shape or form and you stay with these men because you think you cannot do better. But, the truth is, you can do so much better and there are a lot of men out there who will treat you wonderfully and love you immensely for both your heart as well as your body. A lot of these men are very much better than I am in fact. When you find one of these men, please appreciate him and reciprocate his affections or his love for you could very well grow cold.
I know what happens though, when many of you find a man like this, you go straight into panic mode or you callously brush off his kind words and affections. Why do you get extremely nervous or callous when someone is so good to you? Please answer me, I’ll wait.
I know some of you get upset and withdraw because some of these men are indeed clingy, but these men are clingy only because they want you so badly and they value you enough to spend as much time with you as possible. As long as they don’t harm you in any way, please be grateful that they are willing to devote so much to you. We all have flaws, so if he’s a good man and he treats you like the queen you are, please don’t break his heart. Just be gentle and patient with him. Would you rather be truly lonely or worse in a truly abusive relationship? Please answer me, I’ll wait.
It may seem like I am talking down to all of you at this point, but I guess I am frustrated because of the hurt I experienced, not only from my exes but other plus-sized and super-sized women who were not so nice to me, despite all of the affections and kindness I showed towards them. But I am not [intentionally] talking down to you. If anything, I am trying to empower you and let you know that you are immensely worthy to be loved.
I have witnessed relationships that some plus-sized and super-sized women have with their boyfriends or husbands where they are indeed loved, cherished and adored very much. It makes me exceedingly joyful to witness such a thing and my true wish for all of you is to find a love like that and please don’t ever settle for anything less. You deserve the very best, despite what society tries to dictate about body types. When you do find a good man who is attracted and devoted to you, appreciate him and be good to him as well. He is only human, he is not God, which means he can stop loving you if you don’t treat him right, even though at some point he adores the ground you walk on. Also, because he is only human, this means that he is not perfect, he too will have faults at some point or another.
As for me, I just hope I can find a plus-sized or preferably a super-sized young lady with a kind heart and a pretty face of whom I can cherish, honor and shower with love and affection to and who will reciprocate that love and affection to me. Maybe somehow we could make a life together?…