Body Shaming is not only Cruel, but it’s also Unnecessary and Obsolete…
Yes body shaming does happen. It is cruel. It is horribly cruel, but even in 2017 it still happens. I guess it happens because of everyone serving the big conformity machine telling us what we should look like. It also implies that anyone with a less than perfect body is for whatever reason lazy and a slob. This piece will explain why that is not exactly true and that I would venture to guess that most who are overweight are that way through little or no fault of their own.
Body shaming is Unnecessary:
The reason being is that body shaming because is unnecessary is because many times the person whom is being targeted is overweight through no fault of his or her own. There could be any number of factors that caused this person’s weight gain:
Maybe the person has some sort of medical condition that requires him/her to take prescription medications. More often than not, a side effect of those medications is indeed weight gain. The victim didn’t ask to be like that, but maybe needs these medications to function or survive. People who need medications take them for either a physical or mental condition that sometimes incurs harassment in and of itself.
In the case of a child; Maybe he/she comes from a low income household and cannot afford to eat healthy. Instead, the family purchases foods that offer the most calories per dollar. That child certainly didn’t ask to be born into this world. It’s bad enough that people in lower income brackets get harassed anyway, so when they are overweight as well it makes their lives extra miserable.
Maybe the victim sustained sexual trauma as a child or adolescent. From what I’ve seen, such a painful experience can throw all kinds of hormones and glands out of calibration and indeed cause weight gain. I know there are still some people are very cruel and would pick on someone who has been through such a cruel experience, but it is really low to do such a thing.
And maybe, just maybe, for no other reason, this victim could just have thyroid issues. This is where the person’s ability to burn calories is either non existent or extremely hindered.
So these are the reasons why it is totally unnecessary to engage in body shaming and if one still does then he or she is a very cruel person.
Now I’m going to explain why it is obsolete (and should have been long ago.)
If any overweight girls or ladies may be reading this, pay close attention. I don’t know whether to call it a perversion or just a mere sexual presence, but there are many decent guys out there who find overweight women and girls to be highly attractive. A lot of these guys are decent, kind hearted men and boys who will treat any overweight girl with respect, but he’ll most definitely want to love her deeply and show his love to her physically. He will adore her and do his best to make her happy. He will sweep you off your feet if you let him. Please make sure that any sexual contact happens only between consenting adults or only with all parental approval in the case of one or both parties being minors. Girls and ladies if you indeed come across such a man or boy, keep him and appreciate him. Don’t let his excessive affections go to your head and let you become spoiled. Although he might indeed try to spoil you more. Whatever you do, don’t take him for granted. And for God’s sakes, don’t cheat on him. If you do, he might one day find someone else to love him.
Now, I’ve also been told that there are also ladies and girls who find overweight men and boys attractive. Maybe they think that these guys are cute, sexy, smart, sweet, funny or maybe all of the above. I don’t really know. But overweight boys and men, if you find such a girl, be sure to keep her and appreciate her as well. Love her and make her feel special. If you indeed become intimate with her, don’t let the confidence go to your head and start sleeping with others, because all you will do is break the heart of someone who might have genuinely loved you. Remember how lonely you were before her? Realize the good she had done for you and be sure to do everything in your power to keep her. Again, I cannot stress it enough, make sure any sexual contact happens between consenting adults or at least with the parents’ explicit approval in the case of one or both parties being a minor.
So yes there are those out who indeed find that overweight people are powerfully attractive. In fact I certainly do. Ever since my mid-teens, I have felt this way. I wholeheartedly believe that a chubby woman with a pretty face and a soft body is extremely beautiful. I know other boys and men who believe the very same. For that reason, I would dare say that body shaming is also obsolete.
On an added note, I must admit this. Sometimes, being overweight is unhealthy. If you are in love with someone who is overweight and his/her physician orders weight loss, help them in doing so. Because if your love for him/her has grown beyond a physical attraction, you will want them no matter what and you will want that person to live by your side for as many years as possible.